Most concepts discussed in terms of personal transformation concern your inner world. Meanwhile, personal relationships are also a vital part of your healing and growth process. Friends, family and co-workers are the closest people to us. They often serve as our most scrutinous mirrors by which to reflect on self. In their eyes, we glean honest reflections of who we truly are. Similarly, our thoughts and feelings towards other people are incisively indicative of how we feel about ourselves and our role in the world.
It’s very important to exercise mindfulness in our personal relationships for the benefit of all parties involved. kishin-fukuoka I suggest using the following questions to help you see yourself. Each time you engage in conversation or activity with others and your mindfulness registers negative thoughts, seize the opportunity to transform your criticism into a personal mirror. Whether you’re debating with your brother, arguing with your partner or complaining to a shopkeeper, incorporate these questions into your personal search for truth:
What is the lesson inherent in this situation?
What personal biases have I carried into this situation?
Do I seek other people who manifest the same flaws that I suppress?
Do I identify flaws in other people to distract them from seeing my own weaknesses?
Which aspects of my relations are authentic and which are superficial?
Asking these questions mindfully and reflecting on your response will deepen your personal understanding. These questions are designed to nurture your personal truth and facilitate the healing of your deepest mind. Pausing in mid-debate or mid-argument to ask yourself these questions serves as a powerful wake up call and helps you penetrate the nature of your automatic thoughts.
A writing journal is a very effective way to explore these topics with honest reflection. Call this written meditation. Sit silently at your desk, observing your breath. Calm your mind and relax your body. When you are ready, open your eyes while maintaining continual awareness of your breath. Write your questions and answers, keeping your mind calm and allowing your deepest intuition to emerge. Written meditation can complement your silent meditation to focus your energy on resolving pressing issues. Always return to the silence so deeper wisdom can radiate through you with being clogged up by analysis.
Once you develop this ability with yourself you can apply it in healing situations for others. Very frequently, couples come for Reiki sessions together and invariable they have troubling relationship issues that they hope to resolve through Reiki. By remaining neutral and supportive, a Reiki healer can help both partners heal themselves and consequently nurture a more positive relationship between them. In addition to individual healing sessions, Reiki healers can visualize the Sei He Ki symbol floating between them to ease the tensions in their relationship.
Whether your use Reiki or not, these meditation and awareness techniques can nurture better relationships and inspire personal transformation.
Everybody breathes all day, but do you ever practice breathing? Fresh air is very therapeutic, especially for those of us trapped in big cities. Please don’t think that just because you’re in air conditioned rooms all day that your air quality is sufficiently good. Air conditioners are known to circulate stale air over and over again, spreading germs and dust throughout your office or home. Breathing artificial air that has been exhaled dozens of times without any fresh air input is a good way to pollute your lungs. All of us really need more fresh air. This means spending time in the garden, at the park or outside the big city. Fresh air invigorates your lungs, your heart and nourishes every organ in your body without exception. Practice the Pranayama breathing exercises explained in chapter seven for many ways to enhance the quality and quantity of oxygen in your lungs.
Qigong, Chinese Traditional Medicine and Naturopathy all recommend abdominal breathing to replenish the body’s energy. I don’t know any schools or universities where this is taught. The overwhelming dominance of pharmaceuticals marketed to address every health condition blinds us to our need for plenty of fresh air to be truly strong and vital. It’s no coincidence that observation of the breath is a principal technique in Vipassana meditation. Next time you’re feeling depressed, sleepy or sluggish, take a good luck at your breathing habits before you reach for a chemical solution to your woes.
You can also bring Reiki into your breathing practice while sitting at your desk, in your meditation room, or preferably outdoors. Close your eyes and breathe in while visualizing Cho Ku Rei entering your lungs. On your next breath, visualize Sei He Ki as you inhale, visualizing it circulating from your lungs into your heart and bloodstream. On the third breath, visualize Ho Sha Ze Sho Nen entering your body and nourishing every cell of your body with highly energized Reiki. Continue breathing like this for 5 to 10 minutes, as long as you enjoy the visualization and breathing therapy. This is also a good way to review your study of Reiki 2 symbols.